Well it’s time to let loose on the blank activity of the blank chick. I must state again, blank chicks come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. I really want to help you out and sometimes it can be frustrating try to help a blank chick – such is the plight of a real woman!
Everyone knows a blank chick, you may have a few family members or friends that are always going through something and seem either clueless to the role their play in the blank decision making or activities or they are so damn clouded mentally they really can’t see how blank they truly are – refer them to me. It is time to eradicate the blank chick, you can find them any and everywhere and it is time for woman of the world to unite and either draft them into womanhood on a probationary period until they prove themselves worthy of carrying the title, “Grown woman,” or push them all into a corner and keep them on a short leash making sure to check their blank movements.
The first blank chick chronicle is about “Alice the Sweet.”
Alice is a really sweet person; she would give you the shirt off her back and the wind from underneath her wings if you asked her too. But Alice was often used by men and women because she has such a humble, trusting and giving spirit. I have seen, personally, someone mistreat Alice and she was simply “blank” to the fact she had just been played. I’ve stood up for her on more than one occasion because I feel that she is one “blank chick” worth saving, worth putting some real effort and energy into helping her help herself.
Recently, Alice asked me how to deal with a situation involving her sister. The sisters are not really close, Alice is a very beautiful young woman and her sister (while equally as beautiful) is not neither humble nor giving. She is a typical gold-digger, only out for herself and what she can get from anybody she can charm or trick into meeting some superficial need or want she may have at the moment. She is very tenacious in nature and is not going to give up until she gets what she wants no matter who she hurts in the process. She told Alice she needed to borrow some money from her to pay a few bills she had gotten behind on because of the holidays. Alice (a hard-worker at a remedial job not paying much money) felt compelled to help her sister and gave her not only her last monies allowed in her budget to take care of herself until her next paycheck but dipped into her savings, which was not much, just to ensure her sister was going to be alright. Of course, her sister said she would pay her back at the beginning of the year but we all know that didn’t happen. Now, if you don’t have the money to pay someone back for whatever reason providing them with an explanation and requesting more time to pay them back can often be negotiated in the best interest of both individuals – you can work this type of situation out civilly and with relative ease. Alice the Sweet’s sister not only didn’t pay her back, won’t return her phone calls or emails but the heffa had the nerve to tell Alice the money was a gift not a loan and stop asking for something that she was never going to give back to her. I offered to make a “personal visit” to her sister on her behalf but Alice said no and I thought about it; I cannot defend Alice every time someone takes advantage of her. I am doing her a disservice by taking on her issue and making it my own instead of directing her to stand up for herself and give her a good piece of advice in the process.
I told Alice, you are right I should not go and speak with your sister but you should. You have to speak up for yourself Alice and demand the respect you deserve in this particular situation and I hope that your sister will do right by you but if she doesn’t you’ve learned an important and expensive lesson. She asked what exactly did I mean and I told her, “People will do only what you allow them to do to you. If you never stand up for yourself you will continue to be the world’s doormat and you will never be respected and always mistreated because you don’t value yourself no one else will. Also, never give anyone anything that you are not willing to lose. If you give them advice don’t expect advice back, if you give them money only give what you wouldn’t miss but remember money, friends and family do not mix well. If you help someone don’t expect for them to help you only give what you can of yourself but not all of yourself.” She smiled at me and wiped away a tear. I asked her why she was crying and she told me I sound like her mom. She has always told her some very similar advice and I said, “Alice, when more than one person tells you the same thing you better take a step back and listen. Something about you is drawing people that may not even know each other to have the same conclusion about you.”
You can’t save every blank chick but there are some worth saving and Alice is one of them. You should want to help someone that is seemingly defenseless against being “blank” if they are in the realm of being a “blank chick” only because they are just a good-hearted, good intention type of individual. I know this story is mild but if you have been following I wanted to ease you into the mix…..but the grit will come. Remember what I said to Alice, “only give away what you willing not to receive back,” I challenge you to do this with one person or one situation in your life and see the outcome will be.
Remember darlings…..you don’t have to be a blank chick all your life! Keep it In the Mix with Ms. Nix.