Blank Chick Chronicles!!!! Volume 2

Okay, it’s time to give another blank chick some enlightenment. I am so sorry that there is even a need to address this issue but it’s a requirement to tell this "women" that they are really living in a world of delusion and self-deception and destruction. They have to put on their big girl panties and take charge of their own lives, thinking and destiny. A blank chick comes in all shapes, sizes, ages and races - blank chick-ism is not a respecter of persons and there are some men that fit into this category and yes they will be put on blast for their blank chick behaviors as well.

Let's take a journey into blank chick land, shall we?

Every now and then some friends and I get together and have a girl's talk session. Most of the conversation is about what we've been up to and what we plan on doing and making plans to take vacations together or have play dates with our kids - the average things that women talk about. However, at some point we always gravitate to the men in our lives (or lack thereof) and friendships or relationships we may have with friends that are either in distress or have taken positive turns; in either case, we talk about relationships of all kinds in various stages of growth or decline. At this particular meeting, a new person was introduced and this young lady seemed to have a straight head on her shoulders (or so I thought until she opened her mouth). She was cute maybe 5'7" or 5'8" with a shape that most black men would be drooling over - no belly, B cup, and a huge butt! She was not sloppy in her dress attire and she kept her hair short, in a pixy cut. We were all sharing out various concerns or stories about some craziness that we had been through laughing about how we did this or that when this young lady decided to join in the conversation and started telling how she was madly in love with wonderful man.

Her "man" was tall, dark and handsome. He had an athlete’s build and was very attentive to her needs. They would talk throughout the day and if he wasn't coming to see her that evening, they would talk throughout the night. My friend asked her when was the last time she had been to his house and the young one answered she hadn't - ummm I started hearing small sirens of stupidity ringing in my ears but I said nothing at this point I wanted her to continue (one thing I learned is that people will eventually give you all the information that you need about their situation if you listen long enough and don't interrupt them or make any kinds of verbal gestures of agreement or disagreement with anything that they say and if some alcohol is in the mix, you will get all the details that are usually left out on purpose). The young lady went on to say that her man would her "man" would take her out but never really around his family or friends because he didn't want her to be around his friends because they were hounds and his family was a group of undesirables - now I have not only bells ringing but my palms are sweating and I am getting heated, my friends are noticing my look of disgust and one of them kicks me under the table to stop it and let her continue; I did but not without pinching myself to distract me away from the blank chick-isms come out of her mouth as she continued to dote on this "man" that obviously was keeping her a secret and then she let the cat out of the bag.....

Yes, my "man" is in the middle of a divorce. He and his wife have been separated for some time now. I have met her a couple of times but she's a hot mess. She's always trying to make trouble for him and cause us to have complications in our relationship. At this point, I could not contain myself anymore. First, I told my girlfriends that they next time they invite someone to our circle they have to be screened for blank chick thinking. I come to this circle to learn and to give others what I have learned - those that may have a blank chick moment every now and then but not living in a blank chick world. The young lady looked at me like I had just lost my mind and, in fact, I had because it makes me crazy when a woman does not see the obvious writing on the wall, when a man is playing games and manipulating a woman because she is allowing it to happen to her. YOU NEVER HAVE TO BE WITH ANYONE THAT IS NOT DESERVING OF THE WOMAN YOU ARE. YOU ARE STRONG, BEAUTIFUL AND NEVER DO YOU HAVE TO SETTLE FOR BULLSHIT! AS LONG AS YOU DO, YOU CONTINUE THE CYCLE MEN HAVE BEEN USE TO - IF SHE'S DESPERATE ENOUGH FOR A MAN SHE'LL ACCEPT WHATEVER PIECE OF ME I GIVE HER! Now, I turned and looked this young lady directly in the eye and I said to her, "Sweetheart, please stop calling him your man and identify with who you really are in his life. You are his mistress and his wife is giving you hell because he is flaunting you around as his eye candy, taunting his wife with his affair. Please tell me that you are not that stupid to think this man is divorcing his wife. If he is really divorcing her, then let him finish his business before you continue dealing with him. Although it’s too late for his wife not to continue to give you problems because you are messing with HER MAN, you can at least try to correct this situation before it goes any further. But I really believe he is not going anywhere, he's not leaving his wife. She's just as blank as your ass because the reason you haven't been to his home is because it’s still THEIR HOME! Yes, honey this guy you are dealing is still sleeping in the bed with his wife at their home and that is why you can never go to his house. Oh yeah, his family and friends will tell his wife about you and what you guys do. He can't have you around them because they are around him and his WIFE. You are the secret not the priority......and with that she got pissed and left. I didn't care but I had to say what I did because I hope that she will go home and think about it, I know it won't stop her because one of her last statements before I went off was how much she LOVES this man.....She's headed down a long road of heartache and disappointment not to mention bad karma because of her poor choice.

Okay so let me say this again - YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A BLANK CHICK ALL YOUR LIFE. YOU NEVER HAVE TO SHARE A MAN NOR DO YOU HAVE TO PUT UP WITH ANY BULLSHIT HE'S DISHING OUT. IF YOU ARE AN OPTION AND NOT THE PRIORITY, IF HE CAN'T BRING YOU AROUND HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY --HELL IF HE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF "A DIVORCE" LET THAT MAN FINISH WHAT HE STARTED WITH SOMEONE ELSE BEFORE HE DEALS WITH YOU. I BET IF YOU TELL HIM THIS HE WILL EITHER BACK UP OFF YOU OR HE'S GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU SOME RIDICULOUS REASON WHY YOU TWO SHOULD SEE EACH OTHER AND AT THIS POINT YOU SHOULD BE WALKING AWAY FROM HIS TRIFLING ASS.....TAKE THESE INGREDIENTS AND PUT THEM IN YOUR MIX - BLANK CHICK!!