Well, I have been approached and asked my opinion on inter-racial dating. It really should not be an issue in 2012; so many people are dating outside of their own race it is not as taboo as once believed many years ago. However, it doesn't matter that we are in the 21st century, people still have very negative attitudes toward men and women who date outside their race. I really think that this is some straight bullshit.
I have a few friends, male and female, that date and have married outside of their race and while all our mutual friends are happy with the fact our friend(s) have found love and happiness in an individual, you will find that outsiders have a very different viewpoint on the matter. You may also find some people you believed were your friends and close associates have a problem with you choice in a mate. My personal opinion is to tell them to kiss you but and keep moving. You don't have to answer to anyone about who you decide to date, fall in love with or marry. If you and your partner truly love and care about one another then you should do as you want. However, you must live in realistic terms and know that you will find some opposition out there in the world from men and women (alike).
For example, I know a Caucasian female that has only dated black males and eventually she has engaged in a long-term relationship with a gentlemen (he's a really good guy - yeah!!!). However, she receives much scrutiny and the side-eye from black women when we go out anywhere and she is with her partner. They damn near snarl at her and you can either hear the snide remarks being made, some stereotypical comment about how black men go to white women because they are easy to control, they do whatever they want, etc. This is absolutely not the case (1st off) and you don't know what they have been though as a couple to be where they are today. In fact, it is people like these "haters" or "racists" that usually drive these relationships in turmoil. But for my white girlfriends that are dating or married to black men my hats are off to you and I've got your back ladies. Don't let these people bother you, tell them to kiss you ass or if you want to be suave in saying it with some irony on it say it in Spanish, "Beso Mi Culo Negro" translation "Kiss My Black Ass!" and keep it moving. To my black male friends dating a white girl or anyone woman outside his race - tell them heffas you just don't give a damn and about what they think.
You can't let what people think or say determine or define your relationship with anybody. If somebody has anything to say about who you are dating or married to; they have the problem and not you. I love seeing couples that are madly in love with each other no matter what race they are and what age they are - love is love and a good relationship shows through and last through anything that society can throw at you!!! Hang on in there and if you need someone to put someone straight about their narrow-minded views send them my way and I will let them know the real about their raggedy thinking.
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