So today is Valentine’s Day and most people are walking around in bliss, buying balloons and candy, preparing for intimate dinners and an evening full of personal exchanges of love and affection from their mate. I wish this sentiment was impressed upon everyone I know but, unfortunately, everyone is not in love and Valentine’s Day is only a burden or added salt to a wound of the heart.
I have found so many couples are in turmoil right now. A man cheating on women, women cheating on men and everyone is ready to throw in the towel and walk out the door. I really hate to see so many people unhappy more importantly; I am saddened by the number of families falling apart right now. What the heck is going on with everyone?
I just wanted to take a moment since today is considered the “day of love,” and I want to express to each and every one of my family, friends, supporters, and followers….love starts with you! If you are at the beginning of a relationship make sure you have asked all the questions needed to determine if going any further is worth your time and effort. If you are in a long-term union or marriage, whatever bought you two together is worth fighting for. If your mad, disappointed, or hurt by something(s) that have happened or currently happening – remember you fell in love with this person, go back to the moment you knew love existed and draw strength from that place to work on your partnership.
But if you have reached the end of your journey with the individual you once called your “soul mate” if things are beyond repair – have some dignity and discretion with your personal matters. One thing I learned from my mother, do not ever (I mean ever) bad mouth the person you once called your husband/wife. Believe me it comes back to haunt you in ways you would not believe. My mother and father never did that to one another in my presence. Each allowed me to make my own decision and about the other and I am grateful and thankful of that wisdom. The very things you say about your ex-significant other you will either endure again in life (because you are still holding on to the pain of the experience) or you will pass it on to someone else. I’d rather you know I am a women with integrity and grace who has more important things in life to do rather than demean or disparage who you are than to be known as a bitter, vindictive person who has their hurt and pain on display for the world to scrutinize. It’s not the worlds business and the people in this world are not going to heal me internally – only I can do that so why waste time dwelling on you when I can spend the time healing and improving on me!
Until the next time, add this ingredient to the bowl of decisions for your life and stay In the Mix with Ms. Nix!